Friends play a very important role in our lives and it is very necessary to know how to differentiate between true and fake friends. But it’s not only about friends, we gotta know what kind of people exist in this world. Many are fake and some are true. So how do we differentiate between them? Are you finding it difficult to do so? If yes, don’t worry. This is what I’m gonna be talking about today.
First of all I want to make this thing clear that not every meme about true and fake people that you come across should be believed. You might have come across a meme saying, “fake people have an image to maintain. Real people really do not care”. It may be true for some people and it is true sometimes depending on the person or situation, but I don’t really accept this meme to be true all the time. It doesn’t apply to everyone. Let me explain it to you with an example. If you go to a wedding party and sit there to have lunch, you would surely maintain manners. You’ll have an image of yourself to maintain, right? It doesn’t mean at all that you’re being fake. This isn’t how it works. Or suppose you make a new friend. You might not use manners while talking all the time but you use manners with him/her because he/she is new. Again, that doesn’t mean that you’re not being who you are. Not at all!
Some people consider nice people to be fake, maybe some do not. It actually doesn’t matter at all how you behave or what manners you’re using. Fake and reality depends on your attitude. It’s actually the attitude of your heart that determines whether you are genuine or fake. This is it! It’s that simple. Maintaining your image doesn’t mean you’re fake. Trying to be good, polite, humble, etc, doesn’t make you fake. It’s good to have a good reputation. It’s good to try to be nice and polite though you’re struggling. You’re trying to be a better person but that doesn’t mean you’re faking. Most of the people misinterpret this. It will be fake of course if you’re doing those things only to gain impression from others or to receive praise from others.
As I said before, it’s the attitude and our motive that determines. So how do we recognize such people? How can we tell them apart? Let’s look at some differences between fake and genuine(true/real) people. Let me explain it to you in the simplest way possible.Here we go:
1.Fake people are nice only at fixed conditions, but genuine people are nice all the time.
This may seem controversial to what we discussed earlier because some of you might think that fake people are also nice all the time so as to get appreciation. But this isn’t the thing at all! Fake means fake. They’ll not last for long. Yeah, you got me right. When such people are nice to someone and that person doesn’t help them or aren’t nice to them in return, they just stop being nice to them because they know that they aren’t gonna be of any help to them. On the other hand, genuine people are nice to everyone at all times. People might or might not be nice or help them in return but they don’t really care. They continue to be nice because that’s who they are and that is what makes them real.
2. Fake people want other’s appreciation for what they do but genuine people don’t.
Fake people want appreciation because they do something which they are not. And that makes them feel they should be appreciated. They want people to notice what they do while genuine people don’t really care whether they’re appreciated or not because for them, there’s nothing extraordinary about what they are doing because that’s who they are.
3. Fake people are nice when they are noticeable but change their color as soon as they are out of sight, but genuine people remain the same.
Let me start off with an example to explain this. Suppose you’re nice to a person. You help that person a lot and build his trust(let me use he for convenience). He shares everything with you because you’ve won his heart. But the moment you’re out of his sight, you start gossiping about that person and don’t bother to keep his secrets. I hope you’re getting me. It’s the opposite with genuine people. They will never ever gossip about anyone. If they see some fault in others, they’ll either correct the person or they’ll keep it to themselves and conceal it. Hope it’s clear enough.
3. Fake people are nice to limited people only, while genuine people are nice to everyone.
This might sound somehow similar to what we’ve discussed this far. Yes, it is but it’s somehow different and yeah, important obviously. That’s the reason I decided to discuss about this as a separate topic. Fake people are nice to limited people only which means they are nice only to those people who could actually help them someday. For example, they’ll be nice to rich, famous, important people, etc only to gain their favour or they’ll be nice to the person they like. Genuine people are nice even to the poorest or dirtiest person who may never be able to help them back. It doesn’t matter whether they( the ones whom they help) really understand or not, whether they’re grateful to them or not, they’ll just help because that’s their true nature. It might sound like I’m repeating but this is really important to know if you’re to differentiate between fake and genuine people.
4. Fake people talk a lot about what should be done but never do. Genuine people live the talk.
Fake people keep on talking about what should be done. They talk like they know so much and have much knowledge about how to live, etc but they don’t really live the way they talk. Genuine people on the other hand, talk about what should be done and they truely live it themselves. They might not even talk about it but their actions speak louder than words.
Now I hope you’re clear about the differences between fake and real/genuine people. You’ll be able to identify them. And one more thing:
So yeah, before making friends with anyone, check what type of person they are. You might not be able to avoid their company but don’t be too close to them. And most importantly, be a genuine person yourself! Be someone whom others will love to be friends with. But again, don’t fake it. Just be who you are. Here’s a quote which I wrote:
Yeah! There’s no need to show or convince others what you’re capable of or even convince them that you’re genuine. Just do it, just be genuine and others will automatically see. This is how the world works. People will see what you do. But even if they don’t realize, don’t worry. Just be who you are regardless of whether people appreciate or not because that’s what makes you a genuine person as I’ve already mentioned before. But I promise that they will eventually see it. Be who you are. Be real, be genuine!